The Four Stages of Competence: How They Impact Home Organization for ADHD, Neurodiverse, and Chronically Disorganized Individuals
Getting and staying organized can feel overwhelming, especially for those with ADHD, neurodiverse folks, or those with chronic disorganization.
For these brains, it’s not just about tidying up - it’s about developing skills, awareness, and habits over time. Understanding the Four Stages of Competence can provide clarity on where you are in your organizing journey and what steps can help you move forward with less stress.
Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence (Not Knowing You Don’t Know)
In this stage, someone may not yet recognize the challenges disorganization creates in their life. Clutter may feel like part of everyday life, or there may be a belief that being “messy” is just part of who they are.
How It Affects Organization:
Stage 2: You’re aware that the clutter is there, but accept it as inevitable.
Lack of awareness that clutter is contributing to stress.
Struggles with executive function can make it difficult to identify the root causes of disorganization.
A belief that they’ve “tried everything” without success, leading to discouragement.
How to Move Forward:
Build awareness with gentle reflection, such as journaling about how clutter affects mood and productivity.
Start with education—podcasts, blogs, or professional organizers who specialize in ADHD and chronic disorganization can help break down the benefits of organized spaces.
Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence (Knowing You Don’t Know)
This stage involves the realization that disorganization is causing stress and disruption, but there’s uncertainty about how to change it. Frustration may build as someone begins to recognize patterns but feels stuck in knowing how to shift them.
How It Affects Organization:
Awareness of the clutter’s impact but feeling overwhelmed with where to start.
Negative self-talk (“I should be able to do this”) can lead to avoidance.
Difficulty breaking tasks down into manageable steps.
How to Move Forward:
Break tasks into micro-steps (e.g., instead of “organize the kitchen,” start with “clear one drawer”).
Use external tools like checklists, visual reminders, and body doubling (working alongside someone) to stay on track.
Seek support from a professional organizer who can provide guidance and simplify the process.
Stage 3: Conscious Competence (Knowing How, But It Takes Effort)
At this point, new skills are developing, but they require focus and consistent effort. Organizing tasks may feel possible but not yet automatic.
How It Affects Organization:
Progress is happening, but staying organized feels like hard work.
Systems might be in place but need frequent reminders to maintain.
Fatigue or ADHD burnout can occur when the process feels mentally taxing.
How to Move Forward:
Create simple, low-maintenance systems that align with your brain’s natural patterns (e.g., open bins for clothes instead of folding).
Incorporate routines—link organizing habits to existing ones (like decluttering while waiting for coffee to brew).
Set up accountability with a professional organizer or a supportive friend to reinforce progress.
Stage 4: Unconscious Competence (It Comes Naturally)
At this stage, organizing habits feel more natural and automatic. The systems are in place and working, with less mental energy needed to maintain them.
How It Affects Organization:
Systems are effective and fit the individual’s lifestyle.
Maintenance feels intuitive, with occasional tweaks as life evolves.
Confidence grows, leading to a positive cycle of success.
How to Maintain Progress:
Periodic check-ins with a professional organizer can keep systems working as needs change.
Celebrate small wins to reinforce positive habits.
Remember: perfection isn’t the goal—functionality and peace of mind are.
Final Thoughts: Organization is a Skill, Not a Personality Trait
The Four Stages of Competence remind us that organization is a learned skill that develops over time. If you or someone you love struggles with disorganization due to ADHD, neurodiversity, or chronic challenges, you’re not alone—and you’re capable of growth.
As a professional organizer specializing in ADHD and chronic disorganization, I can help you build sustainable systems that fit your unique needs. If you’re ready to take the next step, let’s create a space that supports your success—one stage at a time.
Contact me today for a free consultation and start your organizing journey with confidence!
Happy Organizing,
